The single best advice you could give someone, in any situation, is to just be themselves.
The single shittiest advice you could give someone, in any situation, is to just be themselves.
Let me elaborate.
In anything you want to achieve in your life, the key is, to be authentic. The only way to be authentic, is to be yourself.
If you want to build a business, chances are, there is already someone, something out there, that’s very similar to what you plan on doing. Why would people want to support your business and not the other ones that are already out there? Because they want to support you. Because they like you and the way you do things.
You’re going on a first date. Maybe someone introduced you two to each other, you’ve been talking, but haven’t met in real life yet. What is the thing that will make you feel attracted to the other person? It’s them being them. The vibe they give off, the way they speak, move, their moral approach – it’s them.
Let’s say you’re going to a job interview and there is another person, that has the exact same qualifications you have. How is the interviewer going to choose? Based on sympathy, character.
Like, why do your friends like you and not the next person? Because of all the things that make you, you.
You get the point.
In anything you want to achieve in your life, the key is to be authentic. The only way to be authentic is to be yourself.
But how am I myself? Who even is that person? Who am I?
Before even being able to be yourself, you have to find out who you are. In order to find out who you are, you have to find out who you’re not. You have to try different things, work different jobs, meet different people. Know what you want and what you don’t want. You have to get to know yourself. Understand your thoughts, your emotions and your body.
And then, once you think you’ve grasped what you’re all about – curveball – something happens and you react completely different to how you thought you would. Or you have an amazing conversation with someone who believes in things, so different to what you believe in and that shakes your whole point of view. We’re never done becoming ourselves. Which is a part of us too. So however easy it sounds, to “just be yourself” it takes a lot of work to get to the point where, being you, actually is easy.
Until then, trust your intuition. Listen to your gut feeling. Deep in your core, you know who you are. You know what you want.